For some of us, Mother’s Day is a joyful celebration: brunches, flowers, chocolates, connecting with family, filled with joy and love. It’s a day to be grateful that we are loved and appreciated, a time to reflect and honor the women in our lives who loved us, cared for us, supported us and told us to eat our vegetables, wear clean underwear and be home by 10. However, for others Mother’s Day can be a difficult day of reflection. We may have had a mother that was unable to love and cherish a child, a mother who, maybe because of her own upbringing or health issues, was unable to step into the powerful Divine Mother in herself and therefore unable to give us what we needed. For some of us, Mother’s Day may bring up feelings of anxiety, sadness, regret, heart ache, or a feeling of loss for a mother we wish we had.
We can’t change our childhood, but we can step into our own Divine Feminine and Mother ourselves. The Divine Feminine is a part of all of us. She is our honoring of birth and death, she is nurturing yet fiercely protective, she sees the beauty in all things, she laughs, she cries, she sings and dances, she celebrates our highest achievements and mourns our deepest failures. It is life changing to be on the journey to taking over the primary responsibility for filling in the spaces that our own mothers were unable to fill. Establishing a strong healthy bond with ourselves, becoming the Divine Feminine Power Source of unlimited love, caring, and nurturing for ourselves, is a way to peace and joy.
“You have to find the Mother inside yourself. We all do. Even if we already have a mother, we still have to find this part of ourselves inside” Sue Monk Kidd
This Mother’s Day, I ask that you reflect on how you can bring more Divine Mothering Love to yourself, no matter your relationship with your own mother. Learn ways to celebrate mothering yourself. You ARE worth it! I am holding that for each and every one of you, inviting you to look at yourself from the eyes of the Divine Mother and let her speak to you. What is she saying? Is she whispering “I love you,” or is it more of a stern mother-to-daughter talk? Does she need you to listen for your safety? Does she know you need a good hug, a cup of tea, and a nap? Is she beaming with pride? She is there supporting you, holding that space for your truest most divine self and loving you unconditionally. Find ways to be still, for she is there. She has the answers! Mothers always do : )
Some simple ways to start. Eat your vegetables and always wear clean underwear! : ) Find a practice that brings you to silence, that calming meditative state, that nurturing inner you place. Take a moment to be proud of your accomplishments even if it is just getting out of bed in the morning. Give yourself hugs and soft caresses. Breath, sing, laugh, feed your mind and your body with love, take care of yourself when you are ill, and always do your best to play nice with your brothers and sisters.
Starting this Mother’s Day, find time to listen to your Divine Inner Mother. Snuggle in with her who would tell you that you are a loved, powerful, brave, and sacred. You are a cherished child of the Universe.